Showing posts with label aliology. Show all posts
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Tuesday, July 22, 2025

Aliology: Constructive, not Destructive

11/19/25 - Considering making a sequel where I talk about...receiving and using feedback.

(Quick notice: some censored inappropriate slurs are put in one image.)

So...criticism. We've all dealt with it and we've all given it out. Whether it be for something you enjoy, or something you despise. Maybe it was a really annoying student, or a great friend that messed up. Perhaps you were critiquing your friend's article. It might've just been a minor dispute. You even handle and give criticism when you self-talk.

Criticism can really affect how you feel. Constructive criticism helps you grow as a person, realize you are imperfect and that you can change. Destructive criticism is just rude, often pointless, and affects self-worth. However, sometimes it might not be obvious if you're being constructive with your criticism. So, about 9 months ago, I put this on my wall, on how you can turn mean opinions into fair criticism.


Of course since this was a while ago, there are some sappy things said here, but it is still a good idea to consider how constructive your criticism actually is. My criticism used to be highly destructive, but I have been slowly learning to appreciate the positive things about stuff. After all, if I only focused on what I hate about something I love...do I really love something?

Something also important about criticism is to still try and be honest. Being disingenuous and lying about how something makes you feel, regardless on if you like it overall will mean skills will stay stagnant. 

And when you do mention something you don't like about something, explain why. It's easy to just say "it's boring" or "it's unfunny", but why do you personally think that? Is it a criticism relevant to the person's growth? Is it even necessary to mention?

EXAMPLES

Here's an example of constructive criticism I received about an animation a few months ago:

(This was on my animation "Fruition" btw)

The person highlighted what they liked about my animation and also suggested improving my shading. They also went in depth on said problems with shading. It doesn't get toxic and stays level-headed.

On the other side, here's an example of destructive criticism I once got for making an error in my writing about PBS Kids being defunded.
Who this guy think he is?!

Now, I was incorrect in what I was saying- PBS Kids was not fully defended, and it still receives funding from from other sources. However, not only did the person not fully explain their reasoning, but they said it in a pretentious and rather unwarranted way. "Lol you don't know anything do you"? Excuse me, everyone gets it wrong sometimes.

A better example of nicely explaining to someone they made a mistake would be this:

Discussion on PM photos

If you don't know what we're talking about, it's the postmortem photos of an unidentified decedent, in specific one of the Los Angeles Bus Stop Boys. (I may make a blog post about them in future!)

However, I mistakenly thought one of the images was taken at the crime scene. People casually were able to tell me it was taken at the autopsy by coroners without having to be rude, and they weren't dehumanizing my opinions on the photo either.

As a result, I was able to correct myself confidently and came out knowing more about PM photos.

ENDING

So, overall, remember- use your words politely in order to help others improve. Criticism can only be constructive if you make it so.

Keep on constructing!

- ninesevenpotatoes, 2025

Sunday, July 13, 2025

Aliology: An Anger Analogy



(This comic will make sense once I get to the analogy.)

Random fun fact of the day: "I am angry!" In Spanish is "¡Estoy enojada!"

A few weeks ago, I was having a very frustrating day for reasons I won't explain, and I did some very rash things which I look back on with disappointment. However, one smart thing I did during that period was rant in my journal for a page.

Later, I mostly forgot about the morning and wanted to go to the library. It was closed earlier today and I didn't know. I overreacted to say the least and I regret it also. It wasn't even that bad in retrospect, but it's still kind of embarrassing to explain what I did, so I won't.

As I cooled down, I went to the bus stop and realized how dangerous impulsive rage really is. I usually take my anger out on objects, but in future, I could start lashing out on people or more valuable things, which isn't a healthy emotional regulation skill.

I remembered I drew a half jokey poster and put in my school about cheering yourself up when your having a bad day. It pictured a drawing of a frog eating flies.

So, I opened up my new sketchbook my mom bought me and drew what represented me at the moment.


By the end I was calmer and actually able to reflect and chuckle at my impulsive misbehavior. Then the bus arrived, and now I'm home.

I opened up my journal again and read through some of my angsty words. I mentally laughed again, and began writing again now from a better perspective. By the end of my reflection on the day, I figured this would be a good thing to blog about.

So ultimately, here's what I've learned:

Taking anger out on an object is still bad. But don't hold in all your frustration either, as that's just a replacement for being sad. Instead...

1) Allow yourself to feel these emotions, but don't outwardly express them in a harsh or possibly irreversible way.

2) Use some sort of calming strategy that doesn't involve violence. Drawing, journaling, taking a walk, you know the deal. You could even cry if you want. Or take it on something you know isn't valuable...like a pillow.

3) By the time your done with your meltdown, reflect on what your upset about. Is it actually that big of deal you thought it would be? Now solve the problem in a more reasonable manner.

And there you go! Note that this strategy is very variable depending on the type of person you are. But overall, it seems to be working for me. I'm still having trouble with my anger, but I hope I improve in the future with strategies like this.

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To end this post off, let me explain the actual anger analogy I entitled this post.

A small match is easy to ignite. But it's also very easy to put it out when you know what you're doing.

If you don't know what you're doing, that small match can start a fire...then erupt into an uncontrollable house inferno.

Even when it eventually dies out...there's still damage to that house. It might take a long while before it can be repaired. 

- A.A.

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Thanks for reading!

What would you like me to talk about next?

- ninesevenpotatoes, 2025

Saturday, May 24, 2025

Aliology: Assumption Bias

(I originally wrote about this to my counselor over a year ago, before I was even 14. I've rewritten a few bits and added more content to sound more dated to my current writing style or not to reference my counselor. Speaking of which, if my counselor is reading this, hello!)

Welcome to the first episode of Aliology! I called it "Aliology" because I just combined my last name with an "-ology". In Aliology posts, I just ramble honestly about mental health, sociology, school, stuff like that. I began Aliology as emails to my 8th grade counselor, who I still keep in contact with. I figured it would be fitting if the first ever email I branded under "Aliology" was also my first Aliology blog post.

[Please keep in mind I'm not a psychologist. In fact I can't even trust myself writing this.]

What is An Assumption Bias?

Now, we all know what "assumption" is- thinking of an inference based on something you already know. For example, I'm going to assume the person reading this is one of my friends, because I sent this blog to mainly my friends. However, I don't actually know WHO is reading this right now. For all I know a toddler or grandmother could be reading this. That's why it's an assumption; I don't have the true facts behind it, just my intuition. Once I have more facts behind my assumption, it could become validated. For example, I can definitely prove whoever is reading this is probably a human being, because I have human friends. Except Georgie the giraffe. He's a stuffed animal. 

However, we're still just making assumptions- what this is really about is "assumption bias" as I call it. *ahem*

Assumption bias is just when you jump to the most reasonable conclusion about something, often without thinking about it. Needless to say, assumption bias can be problematic, as we'll see. But first, we need an example. Let's start with this genius comedic example:

I fell, and there's a banana peel on my hand.

"Oh, so you slipped on a banana peel!"

Actually, I tripped over a raccoon who was stealing my banana. See? The assumption was that I'm really clumsy and don't look where I'm going (which is true), but there was a bias because of the information you were given. 

Ok, maybe not the best start, so here's a more realistic example you might see in real life.

"A student is doing poorly in school, often getting Ds and Cs. What is happening?" 

You may have thoughts like:

1. He's lazy and doesn't do work.

2. He doesn't understand the material.

3. He's discouraged by peers.

4. He's struggling with something not school-related.

And infinitely more! All of which are assumptions. The one you thought FIRST about the situation is the assumption bias; it shows what you think first based off your previous experiences. Which one did you think first? Personally, I'd think the 1st one. 

The thing about assumption bias is that it's birthed because we lack details. Our minds have to fill in the gaps to predict what's happening. If we have more information, our assumptions can become presumptions. Here's contexts added that could support all of the ideas:

1. He often slacks off in class and plays video games all day.

2. He has dyslexia and gets frustrated with reading.

3. His peers are risky and bad influences who bring him into schemes.

4. His parents are getting a divorce and fighting over custody.

With these contexts, our assumptions are made more factual, and almost valid at that point. Unfortunately, in real life, the information we get will often be scarce, which is what leads us to make an assumption. Different people will have different perspectives on the same situation. A teacher might think of the 2nd one as an option, a parent might think of the 3rd option, and a therapist may think of the 4th option. So everyone has differing opinions but no real answer. 

And you KNOW how people can get when we don't agree...*shivers in Twitter* 

The Problem & Consequences

That's where assumption bias actually becomes a problem- it's ok to have assumptions, and we all naturally will be biased from time to time. It's practically in our blood. What's important however is NOT treating assumptions as facts and following through with them. Because assumptions are OPINIONS. In order to treat an assumption as a fact, you need to- well, you need to prove it, obviously.

Here's another, much harder example: What do you assume about a child who is obese? Well, your first conclusion is pretty obvious: a child who is obese likely eats too much food or doesn't get enough exercise.

However, with questions like this, there's SUB questions that can occur. Like, "Who is causing this child to be obese?" is a harder question to answer. Here's the assumptions even popular people come to:

1. It's the company's fault for supporting junk food to children.

2. It's the child's responsibility for eating too much and not exercising enough.

3. It's the parent's responsibility for letting their child get obese.

4. It's the school's fault for their high calorie lunches and breakfasts.

Now, the difference is that this is a much higher scale problem to analyze, as it focuses on whole groups of people instead of just individuals.  So, it's harder to identify the solution, or if there's a solution at all. In fact, you might argue the answer is that EVERYONE is at fault here. I mean, it's what I'm saying.

Assumption bias generally results from what we've heard before. Like, maybe as you were growing up, you saw children constantly cry over not getting toys or treats at the store. So now, if you see a child throwing a tantrum anywhere, you automatically assume they're a brat. But maybe they're not. Maybe they're neurodivergent and happen to be really sensitive to unfamiliar scenarios. And when you make those assumptions, it can distort your view of the world.

Bias can lead to propaganda, and propaganda will lead to bias. It's a vicious cycle, and often bias can lead to poor conclusions or actions. Take the Holocaust- because of Germany's struggling economy, Hitler blamed the Jews, which was an assumption bias, and that assumption bias turned into propaganda that demonized the Jews, which caused more bias, and eventually led to the infamous GENOCIDE of Jews all over.

I have some personal stories of my own as well! Like, I have this online friend, who, I won't reveal their names to respect privacy, but I remember back in 2023 they were constantly inactive and unmotivated. And for some reason I was mad at them. Then guess what I realized later on? They were grounded for a very long time, their brother mocks his drawings, and their mom is overbearing. I had to omit some details in case they happened to read this in future. Yet here I was, being unappreciative, disrespecting boundaries like cell membranes. My assumption was that he was just lazy, because I had a bias of that being why I couldn't do things. I've apologized, don't worry. 

Another story I specifically remember was back in 2022, when I heard some drama between a group of friends and a Discord server. We'll use the names...Zangler and Tiger to describe it. It's based on their usernames. Basically, I think, someone screenshot an excerpt from Tiger and in it, he criticized Zangler. In the beginning only however. But because that studio was full of useless mods, they didn't read through or think about the situation, then began raiding Tiger's profile.  Except I'm calling the kettle black, because guess what? SO DID I. Punch me. But ironically, guess who it was who DID bother to read through the messages and found out the mistake they made? ME. I read through and realized the full context, and made an announcement to everyone about it. So yeah...not one of my proudest moments. (Then again, the entirety of 6th grade was not one of my proudest moments.) My assumption was that someone was wrong, because my bias was that everyone else was doing it.

Overview

So, assumption bias is problematic. The main way of dealing with it? Simple. Don't treat your opinions as facts before you verify them. Look into everything carefully, and accept other people's thoughts.

Before we end, I want you to think about your assumption bias. Here's a quick test: tell me what you first think when you read these scenarios.

- A woman gets kicked out of her parent's house.

- An old man tries to rob someone.

- A young woman refuses to eat vegetables.

- A teenager always seems taciturn and forlorn.

Now here's those scenarios, but with CONTEXT:

- The woman is 35 years old, and is toxic to her family members.

- The old man is homeless, and the person he tried to rob did a cruel prank on him.

- The young woman was fed processed foods for most of her childhood.

- The teen just struggles with social skills, he's much more energetic by himself.

What did you assume, and how biased was it?

See you another day, everyone!

- A.A, 2025

#aliology #assumptionbias

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